Instead of engaging in a spelling bee during oral sex, take some advice from me β a seasoned lesbian with over two decades of experience both receiving and giving oral sex. Communication during oral sex is about more than just moans and heavy breathing though that counts, too!
You want to maximize your partner's sexual pleasure, and that means communicating with her before, during, and even after the act. Where does she enjoy being touched? Which motion feels good for her? By keeping the communication open, having no assumptions and learning to figure out what pleases each person, you should be able to give incredible head. Consensual experimentation with different positions , speeds and techniques is a great way to find out what will leave her in ecstasy.
Great music never starts off with the crescendo β it always builds up. Female orgasms are similar. Your partner will get more out of it β including a better orgasm β if you start slowly and get blood flowing to her clitoris by giving the rest of her body some attention.
No matter how excited you are to go down on her, remember you enhance the experience when you take your time. Move your tongue in a swirling motion around her clitoris. Gently sucking on her clitoris or clitoral hood is overlooked by also incredibly effective.
If she needs an intensity break around her clitoris, try sucking her labia. Her vulva has nerve endings all over and the clitoris is more than just the external part we can see β it is shaped more like a wishbone , with shafts running down both sides of her vulva, in addition to the pea-shaped bulb we can see.
